I get this question a lot…
Guy: “Oh you’re beautiful, smart, funny, and ambitious what’s the catch? Why are you single?”
*Thinking* I don’t know & I’ve never really thought about why I am single…I just accepted the fact that I am.
I actually sat down recently and pondered this fact since I am “such a catch”. I could only come up with two things from a male’s perspective as to why I am single:
1. I’m possessive
2. I need attention.
I don’t mind if my guy has female friends but I am not hip with my guy chilling with mad females. It’s something that I don’t think I could ever be comfortable with. I am the type that can be a bit possessive and when I am with someone he is mine. Not hers or anyone else’s, I don’t mind if you hang out with the boys but I am not gong to be cool with you and her hanging out at the mall or going out to the movies. That is what I am here for.
As much as I enjoy my independence I am the type of girl that needs attention. I love the good morning, good night and just checking up on you text messages. Who doesn’t? I’m not the type of girl that can go an entire day or several days for that matter without talking to my significant other, unless of course you absolutely cannot talk to me for some reason. I like to Skype, talk on the phone and text my significant other throughout the day. For my boyfriend to be fine not speaking to me for several days (by choice) raises suspicion and is a problem. Some guys don’t like to do that at all and others don’t mind it but I prefer one that has no problem with conversation and making sure that I know I am missed and loved.
So I guess, that is the catch.
Call them flaws if you like but that is simply what I require.
As simple as that may seem, I still haven’t been able to find a guy that can deal with those two things. Communication is very important to me in a relationship and it simply will not work without it & I will pass on a guy who has way too many female friends. I will remain single until I feel that it is time for me to be with someone. I am in no rush, especially after my last relationship, I still have some growing that I need to do before I can devote myself to someone else.
As far as you men out there that meet that woman who is just too good to be true and you can’t figure out why she hasn’t been snatched up maybe the flaw isn’t with her and perhaps with whom she has dealt with in the past. There are many beautiful, smart, funny, and ambitious women out there that are single; they just haven’t met their match yet.