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The Blame Game

You didn’t do anything wrong!

Why do women take the blame for things going wrong in relationships? We always feel that if we are ultra good looking, cook/clean, supportive enough, understanding, don’t nag and always ready to have sex our guy will treat us like the princesses we are and won’t have a reason to leave.  This isn’t true.  You could be Mary Poppins, Martha Stewart, Beyoncé and Michelle Obama rolled into one and I guarantee you that there will be a guy out there that wouldn’t know how to treat you right.

Time and time again women are going above and beyond to keep a man that really doesn’t deserve them.  You shouldn’t have to overexert yourself to keep someone.  When you find yourself giving more than you are receiving, you have a problem.

This is something that I have struggled with and honestly I can’t pinpoint why I always blamed myself for something that wasn’t working out.   I would get treated badly and always ended up being more forgiving then what was deserved.  It always took me longer than it should have to cut the cord and realize that I deserved better.  Afterwards, I would go through that contemplation period where I beat myself up wondering why I was treated this way and I always concluded that maybe I just wasn’t good enough.

Now that I am older I realize that that isn’t the case, most times men aren’t mature enough to realize what they have when they have it and it takes them a couple times to get their priorities together.  Maybe he wasn’t ready to settle down, maybe he has issues, or maybe he was just an asshole, whatever the case was it wasn’t meant to be or else it would have.  Throughout my experiences I’ve realized that you can’t force two pieces together that aren’t meant to fit and instead of blaming myself for a failed relationship I just have to shake my opponents hand and call it a day.

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A few words of advice:  Know your worth, stop blaming yourself, stay calm and move on.

Discussion

6 thoughts on “The Blame Game

  1. LOVE THIS BLOG !!! Im sure most of us women can relate …

    Posted by Jaz | November 18, 2012, 7:21 PM
  2. Love this, i can completely 110% relate. I need to take your advice on board!!!

    Posted by bethanyliggett | November 23, 2012, 9:16 AM
  3. thats the way life is sometimes, we have to know our worth, i’ve left the only woman i love because i felt i didn’t get the love i deserved, i coast now until i see and feel the love i deserve because at the end of the day if i give to someone something they don’t deserve it can cause me to become “jaded” and i might miss out on someone very special…

    Posted by Jasper Sylvester | November 24, 2012, 1:20 AM
    • Thank you for sharing. I am working on that as well. I’m glad you were able to recognize that you weren’t getting the treatment you deserved but someone will come around…. you’ve got to be patient.

      Posted by mslauna | November 26, 2012, 3:21 AM

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